Free as a bird..........

"The past has no power to stop you from being present now. Only your grievance about the past can do that." -Eckhart Tolle

“Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.” ~Dalai Lama

I was speaking to a dear friend who means everything to me today, she needs some guidance and I hope I can help her through her struggles – we started to talk about self -confidence and its power, yet also its hardships.

You see, we all have ways of feeling good, bad, low, free, and peaceful. We all have triggers that tell us when to experience these states, we think we know what makes us feel happy, what makes us cry and what makes us love. The really interesting part is that in most situations you can challenge how you respond to the daily triggers and change

 the strategies that we use to get out of them and to move on to bigger and better things.

There have been countless times in my life where I haven’t felt absolutely confident. Times when I would rather run and hide then stand out and times when I cant bear to talk about things or when I would rather be anywhere but here...

I am sure you would all agree that we all  have times when we think we  have nothing to say, and that what we do say no-one wants to hear. Sometimes its easier to think we should be quiet as we have a FEAR of saying the wrong thing at the wrong time to the wrong people. It feels safer to be quiet, but after awhile these thoughts get really boring—and when someone is really bored, they’re often in fear because they’ve put so many restrictions on themselves. Where can we go from here? Is there anyway out of these thoughts?

What helped me was finding ways to break down the fear and break down the barriers - to start being the real YOU and stop negative inner dialogue by tapping into a feeling of confidence, or sometimes just another positive feeling or thought.It could be as simple as thinking of something that made me feel good, or even thinking about the fact that we are all human!

It’s not going to happen overnight, but once you become aware of the triggers in your life, you can appreciate and increase the amount of bliss you experience – you honestly can live your best life!

We all have the power to control our thoughts - We are all naturally confident and positive, think back to your childhood – your inhibitions were limited you were free to say and think anything you wanted, but somewhere along the way, people started opposing our actions. For some of us that meant becoming shy, while for others it meant losing their natural self confidence.The good news is that you can tap back into that confidence if you want.

As I mentioned before, we all have triggers and strategies. We have triggers that make us feel stressed and bad, and strategies to for dealing with these thoughts. A strategy could be as simple as finding a friend who taps you on your shoulder and looks into your eyes, smiling knowingly! They know what your thinking, its soothing to know this!!

You have the power to easily become who you want to be. You see, you are already the person you’ve been dreaming about becoming.

As you take that in, it may sound confusing, but it’s completely true.

It’s just that you have a lot of layers on top of that ideal person that stops it from shining through. All you have to do is slowly but surely start letting go of the layers. Letting go of them isn’t always easy because you’ve spent years accumulating all of it, and it’s designed to protect you from the “outside dangers.”A good example of this is when we interact with someone and we change our REAL self's because we think it will please the other person.

However, each time we do this, we move further and further away from who we truly are. It takes significant effort for us to stay self-conscious and unhappy, but once you remove the layers, you become that person you want to be—just by removing the negatives that can get in the way.

Surround yourself by like minded people! You deserve it Xxx

Listen to this – close your eyes and start your mediation ….